The Unwritten Rules That Shape Our Lives
A thick vintage book titled "The Rules of Life" resting on a white background — representing unspoken expectations and the invisible rules that shape our lives and caregiving choices.

Posted on May 29, 2025

Unwritten rules are everywhere — in our families, our jobs, even in our personal beliefs. They’re assumptions we rarely question, yet they influence how we behave, how we care, and how we relate to others.

Do We Really Know Best?

Whether you’re a clinician, a caregiver, or a parent, it’s easy to assume your way is the right way. But every person is unique, with their own needs, values, and experiences. What works for you may not work for someone else — and that’s okay.

Assumptions We Make (And Need to Rethink)

  • “People don’t change.”
  • “The past was better.”
  • “I need to work as long as others.”
  • “Don’t admit mistakes.”
  • “This change will pass, I’ll wait it out.”

These beliefs may feel true, but many of them limit our growth and drain our energy.

Embracing Change, Even When It’s Hard

Change is uncomfortable — but necessary. From adapting to new technology to adjusting family dynamics, resisting change only delays the inevitable. Growth begins when we face our discomfort and take small, courageous steps forward.

The Cost of Following Unspoken Expectations

Following these silent rules can take a toll on your wellbeing. Working through weekends. Taking on more than you can manage. Hiding vulnerability. Over time, these patterns lead to burnout, resentment, and emotional fatigue.

Rewriting the Rules: What Do You Need to Live Fully?

Ask yourself:

  • What assumptions am I living by?
  • Where did they come from?
  • Are they still serving me?
  • What can I let go of?
  • What needs to change for me to feel alive and energised again?

Let’s Talk About It

The first step is starting the conversation. Let’s challenge the rules together.
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A thick vintage book titled "The Rules of Life" resting on a white background — representing unspoken expectations and the invisible rules that shape our lives and caregiving choices.

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